Tell Your Story. Own Your Brand. Live Your Purpose.
Should your Personal Brand and your Identity be the same?
How many posts have you read that talk about the importance of having an AUTHENTIC brand? (I read 3 just today)… It makes sense right?
It is also widely accepted that your personal brand IS your reputation. Which leads us to consider our audience when we shape our personal brand. So the balancing act between tailoring our brand to suit our audience and maintaining authenticity with who we are begins.
Hold on to that thought for a moment while I set the stage. I recently attended a talk based on a principle from 30 Lessons for Living: Tried and True Advice from the Wisest Americans. (Great book by the way – it compiles THOUSANDS of elderly people’s advice on living a fulfilled life.)
This particular topic was on our IDENTITY. The claim was that most of us base our identity on these three things:
- I am what I do – What you do is definitely part of your personal brand story.
- I am what I control – Branding yourself is an attempt to control how others view you.
- I am what others say I am – Wow! Sounds a lot like reputation to me…
Here’s a little story about a man.
He Failed in business.
A year later he was Defeated for State Legislature.
The next year he had his second Failure in business.
Three years later he Suffered nervous breakdown.
Two years after that he was Defeated for Speaker.
Again, two years later he was Defeated for Elector.
His luck changed three years later when he was Elected for Congress.
Back on track he was Defeated for Congress three years after that.
And again he was Defeated for Senate seven years later.
A year after he was Defeated for Vice President.
And two years later… yep you guessed it… Defeated for Senate.
I’ll give the guy his due credit… He was PERSISTENT. Regardless, it is a great example of a personal branding FAIL. Put yourself in this guys shoes for just a moment…
How are you feeling about yourself? I mean what you do is… get defeated at every turn. You display an inability to control anything that matters year after year. And let’s face it…you’re not going to win a popularity contest anytime soon.
His personal brand is shot, right? And his identity…well it’s a wonder he didn’t have more nervous breakdowns.
At what point do you give up?
Well in 1860 he was Elected President of the United States.
That’s right. You might find him wearing a top hat on that copper penny in your pocket… He’s Abraham Lincoln, arguably the most significant president this country has ever had.
Just take a moment to consider how different our country would be if this man HAD based his identity on what people thought of him.
For One – He would NEVER have made it to the presidency in the first place… by failure number two he’d have changed careers.
Two – Assuming he did make president, you might recall he was the MOST HATED president during his time in office in the HISTORY of the United States. Ask yourself, would a man who based his identity on what others thought be able to make the hardest decisions the United States has ever had to make?
So what the heck does this have to do with YOUR personal brand and YOUR identity?
The trouble with basing your identity on what you do, what you control, or what others say about you is – what happens when…
… You’re defeated, fired or you have a terrible boss?
… Things break the mold of what you think you control?
… Someone or everyone doesn’t seem to like you?
According to the wisdom of the elderly… and I’m inclined to believe them… it leads to a less authentic and thus less fulfilled life.
But wait. Isn’t your personal brand your reputation?
I think the people with enough experiences to have a vote in the matter would say, “Don’t forget what it truly is that makes you tick.” Base your identity on that story, and USE your personal brand as a tool to pave the way to your dreams.
If you enjoyed this post, share it with your friends:
Who Wins Your Non-Celebrity Death Match of Your Personal Brand VS Your Identity? ow.ly/cM4HF— Schuyler Kaye (@T4Execs) August 6, 2012
Check out Superhero Branding for Ordinary People for steps on how to apply that very concept.
Who wins in your Personal Brand VS Identity Death Match?
- ~ Ann Brown, Owner at Happy Being You
"Schuyler, I love the way you skillfully take us (as listeners) through a mini fact-finding journey via many different aspects of our personal history, asking questions that I never would have considered to be relevant. Leaving lots of long pauses, so giving us plenty of time to think, you showed us how these different elements enable us to craft a really compelling story, that we can powerfully stand in to bring our message out to the world (and attract our best clients !). One little nugget I came away with from your learning series - I want to be remembered as the ‘Sensitive Woman’s Authenticity Coach’! You bring such clarity to the free learning series, I can’t wait to join the full live course!"
- Read more testimonials »